'Kay, So I'm a woman who doesn't feel very womanly. I am comfortable with my gender identification as a woman so its not that. But I have a body disassociation thing, and am infertile. I'm big. I have to shave because I grow facial hair (gross)
So I was thinking about emasculation. and how its not a thing. . .and then I reasoned maybe it really is a devastating thing, look how I feel about not being a real woman. So there is a word for that or should be.
so I looked up efeminate. Not thinking that I already knew the word effeminate. Yeah efeminate is not a thing and effeminate is also about men.
So whats the word for that devastating feeling that your no longer womanly?
Seriously. I want that word. Efeminated IS a thing that women can feel it as strongly as man can be emasculated.
when a girl says she doesn't feel pretty.
when a girl finds out she can't conceive
when a girl feels like a failure despite being successful at work because the fricken cookies burned.
That stress of comparing herself against other woman and coming up short.
The stress of having to compete against other women to feel pretty enough, womanly enough.
We feel it. And we need a name for it because it is a thing.
without a word...its just...you know a "girl thing."
try telling a guy its just you know a "boy thing" the next time he feels emasculated.
yeah. No. probably better not to. Men have been known to kill over that crap.
Until I get my word. I'm going to stop using effeminate to mean "girly" and taking that word back to mean emasculation for females who identify as women and feel their identification being questioned.
Don't call me "bitch" because I find that word very effeminizing.
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